I am considering to attent a Mormon church mostly because of the people. Their religious beliefs is still pondering in my mind. What is the ratio of older women to men in a Mormon church??? I have attended other churches and noticed a decline in women membership, and the women who are there are married. It makes it impossible for a single man my age, 68 to meet a woman. Also, at the end of the church service, they fly out the church like flies from a picnic. They just can't wait to get out the door, and there is almost no fellowship between members. The churches also give the image of money, money. We need money. The pastor gives an image, "this is my job" I do this for a living, and when service is over, you can get lost. Please understand, I am referring to many churches, Baptist, Chrisitan, and the rest of the list. Not the Mormons. (I haven't attended yet). So I quit attending a few churches because of SNOBS. The church is full of snobs. Sincerely, Hank Roedell

Hank Roedell, 1/22/2012

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El Santo Gringo from La Jolla, California:




Hi Hank. I'm very happy you're interested in learning more about The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (the "Mormon Church"). I've been a member of this church for many years, and it has been a great blessing my life. The church has brought stability and spiritual peace into my life even during very difficult times. It's strengthened my faith in the Savior Jesus Christ, and that faith has been a great blessing in my life.

In places where the church is well established, the ratio of men to women is about 1 to 1. In Utah, for example, I'd say women comprise about 55% of our population. In places where the church is not so established, there tend to be more women than men. There are also several useful websites that help Mormon singles find each other, in case they worship in congregations that don't have many single people. I'm surprised to hear that some other churches have a shortage of women; in my experience, women are often more open to spiritual things and more likely to accept visits from our missionaries.

Our church places great emphasis on fellowship. LDS meetings include classes where church members can interact with each other. Members often visit each other in their homes thanks for our "home teaching" and "visiting teaching" programs. There are also many church activities like picnics, parties, sporting activities, etc., to help the members of the church get to know each other better. Of course the main reason we go to church is to worship God, but these social elements are also important. They help people feel more comfortable in church so they can more easily feel God's influence in their lives.

Mormons believe that, whenever possible, pastors should not receive any money. The leaders of our congregations do not generally receive a salary, so they are not motivated by money, only by a sincere desire to help others with their spiritual lives. We do believe in tithing, as described in the Bible (Malachi 3:10), but this money is not used so the pastor can buy a nice car or a large house. Our pastors have their own secular jobs to satisfy these needs. All tithing is used for the benefit of the church as a whole, to build chapels and temples, to finance our missionary program, to pay for the books we receive in church, etc.

Of course any group with millions of participants is going to include friendly and less friendly people. I don't want to paint an unrealistic picture of what the Mormon community is really like. However, I'm certain you could find good friends in any Mormon congregation you visit. I'm certain they'd be happy to welcome you and to have you worship with them. 

The Church's missionary program is one of its most recognized characteristics.
To learn more about the LDS church, I suggest that you chat with the Mormon missionaries. There are over 50,000 Mormon missionaries in the world who visit people in their homes to teach them more about Jesus Christ. Most people who are interested in Mormonism learn about our basic beliefs from these missionaries. You can request a missionary visit online.

You can also learn the address of the Mormon chapel nearest your house online. Please don't hesitate to visit us any Sunday morning (9:00) to see how we worship! Mormons love visitors.

I hope this answer helps. Contact me if you have any more questions. I'm happy to help.

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Anonymous from Phoenix, Arizona, United States:


Hey Hank.. I am your age and understand your question. Fact is that women outlive men in the Mormon faith just as in the general population. It is quite impossible to generalize about whether you might find a possible female friend in any given congregation. All contributions to the church are private and voluntary. In fact, all participation in the Church is voluntary. If you visit a Mormon church, introduce yourself to the bishop... You'll find you get maybe even more fellowship than you are ready for.. Mormons tend to be enthusiastic and love to share with newcomers.
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