Is their a special way for a morman to propose before he weds?

Anonymous, 6/18/2009

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Richard from Provo:


No I don't think there is any special way to propose by LDS standards. It's pretty much date a lot of the oposite sex, learn about them and their family, allow them to do the same, pray to see if this might be a good choice to make (after you have made up your mind and ask if it be right... (D&C 9: 8-9: "But, behold, I say unto you, that you must study it out in your mind; then you must ask me if it be right, and if it is right I will cause that your bosom shall burn within you; therefore, you shall feel that it is right. But if it be not right you shall have no such feelings, but you shall have a stupor of thought that shall cause you to forget the thing which is wrong; therefore, you cannot write that which is sacred save it be given you from me.")

After that you take the leap and hope they answer with a yes. Upon that the brethren of the church have counseled that both sexes get as much education as possible (for the benifit of self and family to be, as well as providing for temporal necessities of life) further there is the counsel to be sealed (married) in the temple right from the start so in the marriage you'll be working on is that of an eternal mariage, with children born into that covenant of temple sealing benifiting also of that sealing.

FYI after that it's just learn to live with each other and serve each other and do your best.
Pamela Dean from Clarenville:



Latter-day saints often find creative ways to propose, just as non-LDS do. Sometimes there is a tendency to use language that is specific to LDS culture, such as "eternal companion", "marry in the temple", etc. As well, there can be a huge difference between more traditional latter-day saints and more modern ones. A good example of the "stereotypical" types found in mormon culture can be found in the LDS comedy version of "Pride and Prejudice".

Juan Figuroa from Seattle:


No, there is no particular distinction between LDS proposals of marriage and those of any other individual. There is some basis for your question, however. In some parts of the "mormon corridor," there is a custom amongst teens and college students of planning elaborate invitations to formal dances and other events. This is a cultural phenomenon, though, and not a religious one.
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