Hi, I’m an investigator of the church. I met my ex boyfriend and he introduced me to the church. I am no longer a virgin and didn’t really know about the rule of chasity. I’m very lost because I’m scared that no one in the LDS community will ever marry me because Im not a virgin. But I’m ready to repent and get baptized and I know the church is true. Will any man ever want to marry me even though I’m no longer a virgin ?

Maricela from West Valley City,



One Response to “Hi, I’m an investigator of the church. I met my ex…”


Daniel Rubio
2017-09-10 10:58:40
Hi Maricela. I'm happy to hear that you're interested in becoming a member of the LDS church! This church has been such a blessing in my life. I hope you find spiritual peace here too!

I understand your concern. As is the case with any large group of people, different people have different levels of spiritual intelligence. Some people in the church might not understand the power of Christ's atonement. Even if they understand it intellectually, they might not yet have the spiritual maturity to have really internalized that understanding. Men who have this kind of attitude might be reluctant to marry you. But why would you want to marry so close-minded and spiritually immature a person anyway?

Thankfully, there are many people in the church who do understand the power of Christ's atonement. If you've repented of your past sins and changed your ways, God figuratively remembers your sin no more. Other people shouldn't remember them either. That's the kind of man you should want to marry.

I hope this answer helps! All the best.

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