Hello, i am a teenager, and lately my friend has become “gay.” She has made this decision for attention from her neglecting parents. She went so far as to have her parents pull her records from the church, and now belittles me for continuing to associate with the church. She is being quite rash, and is only 15. She has left the church like this two times before, only to come back. She is constantly belligerent, and makes me feel like i am childish to believe in god. At school, she started to scream at me, because i am a Mormon, and the same sex 18 year old thing. I know she is straight. She still states when she likes a boy. I know i shouldn’t be around her anymore, as it shakes my faith and lowers my self esteem (to the point of cutting) Sometimes i end up hating myself, and seek immature, quick, solutions. I just don’t want to stop being her friend, and i feel like its my fault. What should i do? Please answer, this means so much to me.
One Response to “Hello, i am a teenager, and lately my friend has become…”
Leonardo Miranda
2015-12-13 19:09:21
Hi sister. The "gay" part of this question seems to be irrelevant. It doesn't really matter if your friend is just pretending to be gay or if she really is. Regardless, she clearly needs some help. It's not normal behavior to belittle other people. It's not appropriate to scream at people at school because of religious bigotry. Whatever her sexual orientation, she clearly has some psychological issues. You can help her by encouraging her to seek psychological or perhaps psychiatric help.
You also appear to need some help. It's not normal for people to cut themselves when they feel emotionally distressed. It's not normal for good people to hate themselves, and you appear to be a good person. There are many wonderful, righteous people who struggle with mental-health issues. There should be no shame at all in having to deal with these kinds of struggles. Just make sure you get any help you need.
We should love, respect, and be kind to everyone. We're all children of God. But we don't need to be close friends with everyone. If your friendship with her is harming you (and in this case it appears that it may be literally toxic), it's okay to back off. It's important that you take care of yourself first, so you can then help others.
I hope your situation improves. All the best to you!
You also appear to need some help. It's not normal for people to cut themselves when they feel emotionally distressed. It's not normal for good people to hate themselves, and you appear to be a good person. There are many wonderful, righteous people who struggle with mental-health issues. There should be no shame at all in having to deal with these kinds of struggles. Just make sure you get any help you need.
We should love, respect, and be kind to everyone. We're all children of God. But we don't need to be close friends with everyone. If your friendship with her is harming you (and in this case it appears that it may be literally toxic), it's okay to back off. It's important that you take care of yourself first, so you can then help others.
I hope your situation improves. All the best to you!